I've been thinking a lot about friendship lately. That gummy jungle. Maybe I cling without reason to the adolescent ideal that a best friend is a soul twin. As Phillip Lopate says, "Best Friendship promotes such a merging of identities, such seeming boundarylessness..." In his thirties, he writes, he gave up the Best Friend model for a more pluralistic one.
I'm in my thirties. Maybe it's time for me to give up.