Clara believes that I edited Lopate’s quote too aggressively. Here it is in full: "Still, it was not until the age of thirty that I reluctantly abandoned the Best Friend expectation and took up a more pluralistic model. At present, I cherish a dozen friends for their unique personalities, without asking that any one be my soul-twin." So, instead of a soul twin, it's more like a soul tribe. A cacophony of catastrophic personalities (Modern Friendship).